Is it wrong that I don't love or even like my sister?

I don’t love my sister. I would never wish her harm, but if I could, I would wish for us not to be related. Is this cruel? Why must blood mean we have to be friends? Am I being unreasonable and is there a way to fix this? I do care about her, like I do every human being, but I’d rather be with my friends than be with her at all. It’s not just a "teenager phase." I still love my mom and dad, and I’m very close to them. However, it’s my sister I don’t love or have ever really liked at all.

Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

No one can force emotions.   Its fine to not love your sister.

You may make some discoveries about yourself and your relationship with your sister by studying the reasons for why you're not close.

Usually this has something to do with how the parents positioned the kids.  Some parents obviously favor one child over another, and this would heavily influence how the kids view each other once they are grown people.

The patterns of interaction set down during our growing up years stay with us until we change them consciously.

Its possible your sense of not loving your sister started in your early years.

You now have a chance to know your sister through your grown up eyes, or not.

Either way, you still may decide you don't love her.

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