How can I deal with a break up?

My fiancé and I broke up. He cheated on me numerous times. I kept forgiving but questioning his every move. He got tired and left.

Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

Cheating on you shows a lack of commitment, in addition to the emotional hurt it creates.

Probably you didn't actually forgive him because if you did, then you wouldn't have been asking questions of his every move.

Maybe you were open to forgiving him.   In order for forgiveness to be effective, the person who has done the injuring must first show some understanding and empathy for the great pain the person caused in you.

From what you write, your fiancé didn't seem to have much interest in earning back your trust or in empathizing with the way his cheating effected you.

It is very likely his tiredness is also tiredness you feel, of having to watch him all the time.

As uncomfortable as adjusting with the disappointment of him leaving you, the situation you describe sounds like it was unsatisfying for both of you.

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