I feel like my relationship is falling apart

My boyfriend and I have been arguing every night about the same thing. He also tells me that if I go visit my mother out of state he will be gone when I get back. He and my mother do not get along. What should I do?

Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

A relationship gets weaker, not stronger by threatening control of the other person.

Start by telling your boyfriend to keep his remarks about you and the interests he is in which you two disagree, limited to these areas.

Your relationship with your mother is between you and her.

Regardless of how much he doesn't like her, to not respect your mother daughter relationship is unreasonable and disrespectful toward you.

Threatening to take action against you by withdrawing himself from your relationship, is almost guaranteed to harm the good feelings between the two of you.

Does you boyfriend dislike your mother for any reason having to do with her being a danger to you?

Ask his reason since if he does this from concern for your emotional or physical safety, then this is good sentiment which is handled incorrectly, by a threat to you.

What you should do is ask your boyfriend to not threaten you and to calmly talk about the topics you bring up here.

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